Feature: Is Three A Crowd?
We've all heard the expression 'two is company, three's a crowd' (also see: third wheel). Originally alluding to 'a third person disturbing the privacy of a pair of lovers', this stigma now seems to attach itself to any situation involving < 2 and > 4 people. You could argue that this is nonsense. But let's take a look at the facts. If you're lucky in life, you've most likely got a group of people you can call your friends. Me? What I'm particularly grateful for are my two, very closest friends. We're a package deal, you'll rarely get one of us without the others. Three musketeers, three little pigs...three peas in a pod? While I love my friends dearly and wouldn't dream of life without them, I guess what I'm saying, is that I know first hand what it's like to be part of a three-way...friendship.
Every situation takes just that little bit more organisation. Text one, don't forget text the other. You've got a 'plus 1' to an event...who do you take? Off on a girls weekend? Good luck booking three seats together on the plane. Heaven forbid you decide to take a road trip. How then do you decide who rides in the back while the others enjoy the glory of the spacious, fully air conditioned front seat. This said, many of these issues seem to arise through the fact that the world doesn't necessarily cater well to single people. But that's a whole other conversation.
Once you get over the fact that everyday outings and special occasions will require slightly more planning to orchestrate, then consider the emotional dynamics. If something is bothering Friend 1 about Friend 2 they're bound to confide in Friend 3. It's almost expected that Friend 3 will go and tell Friend 2 (unless of course they have been explicitly told not to). It then becomes Friend 3's job to diffuse the situation. But has anyone asked how Friend 3 feels about it? They probably feel like they should never have been put in that situation in the first place. Still following?
Sounds like a lot of work right? At the end of the day; it is. There's always going to be one more opinion to consider, one more personality to clash and one extra set of feelings with the potential to be hurt. On the flip side, this also means one more person to celebrate with, to watch every Shonda Rhimes mini series ever made with and one extra person to be there for you when you really need them.
So is three a crowd? Maybe. But if two heads are better than one, then three might just takeover the world.
Heading on a girls trip this weekend? Make sure you've packed wisely.
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Words: Stephanie Dugan